Try this exercise. Name the thing bothering you the most right now. Don’t think about it – as soon as you read that statement, something immediately came to mind. Now ask yourself why that thing/situation/person is upsetting you. If you have a pen and paper handy, write the reasons down. Now ask yourself why those […]
Years ago when I was keynoting to teenagers, I often got two different reactions to my speeches: The teens expressed such relief at being able to bring the hard facts and feelings into the light. By opening up the conversation, no one had to feel shame and fear around their uneasiness or questions any longer.
Many years ago, as I struggled with PTSD following an employee committing fraud and then dying by suicide, my husband took me by the hand to an old rowing machine he’d placed outside. It was raining, yet he told me to sit down and row. I thought he was crazy. But at that point nothing
Think about the last time you felt frustrated. It’s very likely you had an expectation that wasn’t being met. The space between expectations and reality is where frustration grows! Expectations are tricky things. Set them too high and you’ll be disappointed. Set them too low and you won’t push yourself (or others) to reach their
Today is my late husband’s birthday. I don’t like to think about the age he would have been or what we would be doing on this day. Instead, I like to imagine him young, healthy, and having fun somewhere. Losing the person you love can feel like a crisis, even if you anticipate it happening.
My Word document kept freezing today. This happens randomly with some Microsoft Office programs on my laptop…I’ll be working away, when suddenly everything freezes and I have to resort to control-alt-delete, open Task Manager, and close the program. This is really frustrating because I lose whatever changes I made to the document between the last
Recently I spent a day monitoring the operations of one of my clients. I wanted to watch the team in action and observe their processes. We purposefully chose a day that we knew would be busy so I could watch a full range of interactions. As I entered the workspace, the first set of team
In my keynote “The Winning EDGE: Mindset Mastery for High-Stakes Success”, D stands for Discomfort. During this presentation I share all the ways that discomfort is misunderstood, is the impetus for needed change, and how it can actually be a valuable tool. What have we been conditioned to believe about discomfort? I get it –
Many years ago while teaching teenagers at leadership camps I’d tell them that if I drew a picture of them, and they drew a picture of themselves, my picture would be better. Why? Because my drawing would focus on all the wonderful things I saw when I looked at them – their good energy, their
Is this you? 🤯 If this hits home, ask yourself: “What are my expectations?” Seriously – take a minute and really think about it. Write them down. My guess is you have a BIG list. A list that is probably IMPOSSIBLE to accomplish when you try to do it all at once! A list that
